Mean girls!

[rferraris]

I am the mom to boys and I need some advice on a mean girl at my sons school. This little girl keeps getting him in trouble and he is not that kind of boy. I'll be the first to admit he is not perfect but he's never gotten in trouble at school. The latest thing she has done (they are 8/9 in 3rd grade) happened this week. They were in PE and were partners for a game. She said "I suck at this game" talking about herself. Being the poor, honest soul that he is he agreed with her!! When they got back to class she told the teacher that HE said she sucked in PE!!! Needless to say he is the one that got in trouble with the teacher. To add insult to injury I learned last night that this child doesn't even live in our school district any more, they haven't even lived in our county for more than a year!!! We've known this family since they were in kindergarten. Moms of girls, what do I do???

[Cindi]

Talk to the counselor of your school. Let her talk to both kids.

[DawnKA]

I would not discuss the move with the school especially if you know the parents. I would discuss it with the teacher who spoke to your son regarding his comments so that he/she may be able to keep an eye on that student as she may have a habit of complaining about other kids. On the other hand, is it possible to speak to her parents? I'm just suggesting since you know them since kindergarten - and she keeps getting him in trouble - if they do not seem to take it seriously - then say "oh well, I guess it really doesn't matter much now since you no longer live in this district" hopefully, this will then get some action to correct the situation.

[Kathy L]

I'd be careful about mentioning the residential situation, unless you know details. It is possible they are paying out of district tuition or have a special circumstance. I would have a meeting with the counselor and the teacher and ask them to meet with the kids. I've taken golf lessons with a pro and been in a similar situaton...he essentially agreed I "needed some practice before I went on the course"; I made a joke about it to someone else; it it possible the teacher overreacted?

[rferraris]

Wish me luck! I am on my way go with my son to talk to the guidance counselor at school. Yesterday he was putting some canker sore medicine on his lip and she ran and told that he was eating candy! He'd already been to the school nurse for his boo-boo. This little girl could be on that new show about "pretty people".

[Kathy L]

How did it go?

[Rene Syler]

she sounds like a TROUBLE MAKER! Yuck

[rferraris]

It broke my heart. He is a rough and tough 3rd grader but has a big heart. He got so upset talking to her that he started crying!!! She is going to talk to the little girl today about being friends to everyone and telling the truth. I also talked to the teacher and she is moving them because their tables are beside each other. She didn't remember getting on to him this week.

[Rene Syler]

is anyone talking to the girl's parents? because pardon me for putting on my amateur psychologist hat but doesn't it sound like something else is going on here?

[Kathy L]

I agree, Rene; it sounds like she's trying to get attention from the teacher at the expense of others. I'd go out on a limb and guess she is doing it to others...

I would love to know the reason it took the teacher a week to separate them.

[rferraris]

The teacher didn't realize what was going on between them. I recently finished doing a long term sub job in the class next to hers so we know each other very well so she is going to keep an extra eye out. This will sound awful but I asked her to make the mean girl sit by the boy that is "least popular".