Perfectly Imperfect
My mother is right, Guilt is a useless emotion...
OK, I was raised Catholic and I'm pretty used to feeling guilty about everything I do; it's par for the course...you get used to it! I'm pretty sure, most, if not all of us are here because we're doing the best we can in trying to keep up with the high pace of the world today. I will admit, I've been known to miss a few permission slips, flake out on remembering snack, forget dental appointments, but no one who knows me, will ever say it's because I don't care. My question/rant is why some people seem to take such joy in pointing out our imperfections. If we miss one out of 837 random items which come home from school in the first week, does the missed item really need to have "SECOND NOTICE" on it in huge print? I get it, I screwed up; my daughter needs permission to see "the movie"! If your child doesn't bring in snack to religious instruction, due to miscommunication, parent error or teacher error, does the teacher really need to embarrass a child in front of the whole classroom for failing to bring in said snack? "OK, children, I know you're hungry, but Lizzie's mother screwed up and there's no snack today. Let's all stare at Lizzie until she feels like total crap...in the name of our Lord..." What happened to all the juice boxes and bags of chips I donated in case of situations like this? Are we so self-involved that we can't cut someone some slack or give them the benefit of the doubt any more? Hmmmmm, I guess I'm not actually feeling guilty anymore; I'm sick of feeling judged...
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Permalink Reply by DawnKA on -
Well, what happened? I'm glad you got this off your chest ;-) LOL!
I can tell you that when it comes to my children - I no longer feel guilty when I say no to them. I already know their response - it begins with "You never................ and I can tell you it doesn't matter how many times I have done or allowed them to have or do something, the rare times I say NO has the same "You never............ Needless to say, I feel no guilt.
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Permalink Reply by Kathy L on -
I went in and complained about the teacher...how dare she embarrass my child in front of the class?! The person I spoke to agreed and showed me a huge box of chips which could have been shared. I also emailed the teacher. To be honest, I had been in bed for three days with a bad back and was in no mood for this crap. I had also forgotten to pick up my kids from CCD for the first time...THAT, I felt guilty about! I think the valium my doc called in for my back spasm loosened me up a bit too much, but she had it coming! I realized I should have put it in the rant section, but can't figure out how to do that. And yes, I do feel better; thanks! I am even sitting in a chair today! What else can I bitch about? I'll be jogging in no time;-)!
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Permalink Reply by Jennifer Lefforge on -
Wow, Kathy, I'm right there with you. We are blessed to live in a great neighborhood with great schools, low crime, and women who spend all day, everyday, ensuring that they never forget a permission slip:). I, however, am NOT one of those women. I love my kids, dearly, but honestly I think if we ALWAYS did everything they wouldn't learn, right? Bless their hearts, my kids now bring me the permission slip and put it in front of me with a pen and won't let me do one more thing until I've signed it. Think how independent and responsible our kids are going to be because they know how to take care of their own crap! My goal is to raise productive humans who know how to take care of themselves, so that's why I always forget stuff. Yup, that's my story and I'm sticking to it:).
Jen
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Permalink Reply by jackijones on -
My kids are trained like that too. It makes life so much easier when they take that responsibility.!
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