Perfectly Imperfect
The TRUE meaning of Thanksgiving
Over a dinner of Romain lettuce and red wine (there was chicken on the salad so don't fret) I was talking to Buff about how sometimes life just isn't fair. Now one thing you must know about me, is that the moral part of my personality, the Super-ego, according to Sigmund Freud, is overdeveloped. In other words, I have a very strong sense of what is right and what is wrong and that is not always such a good thing. It can lead to a dogmatic, immovable outlook on life. So with that in mind let's go back to the dinner discussion.
I was feeling a little of the " life is so unfair" in part because in Philadelphia there is the case of this anchorwoman who's about to get a huge payday because of what happened to her at the hands of her co-anchor. I know this woman and D-R-A-M-A follows her as you can tell by reading the link. So along with this civil suit worth potentially millions of dollars, she is also rumored to have landed a job here in NYC.
"I don't get it" I lamented to Buff as he chowed down on his salad. "What gives? I have been without a job for two years now. Maybe I need to be a bad girl to get some attention and make something happen". Because, you see when I left CBS, after they told me my services were no longer needed, two weeks before my mastectomy (and yes they knew I was having the surgery) I stood up, shook my boss' hands and held my head high as I walked out. No drama, no Star Jones, on air statements, just me, who felt it was important to remain professional to the bitter end.
But every once in a while I get that twinge of, "why me and this is so not fair!" Then I go back to what my mother used to always say. "The only thing fair in life is the weather." How true !
So this Thanksgiving I vow to be thankful for MY life and upon closer examination, it's pretty good!
*** I had major surgery two years ago and I came out of that better than good. I came out great! It helped give my life new purpose as I work with others to help spread the word about breast cancer through Susan G. Komen for the Cure
*** I have a WONDERFUL family. I know I complain at times (i need material!) but I love my husband and life we have built together. I am constantly amazed by the children God gave me to raise. In a word, AWESOME!
*** I have financial security, thanks to my great husband. See if it were up to me I would have blown through every dime I had. He's the saver and the one who tells me it's time to back away from the credit card. He is passing that important lesson along to my children, which really is less about spending and more about learning the difference between want versus need.
*** I have great, GREAT friends! I had "friends" when I was working in TV. Then all of a sudden when the big fancy job, complete with car service and wardrobe allowance disappeared, POOF so did they. But it stripped the wheat from the chaff as it were, along with any sort of pretense from my life. Lo and behold, it was cleaner and simpler and REAL.
So as I sit down to a meal, where I have more than enough to eat, more friends than I thought I would have, more blessings than I deserve, there will be none of this " Life is unfair" thinking. I am thankful for MY life, which is more than good enough!
I was feeling a little of the " life is so unfair" in part because in Philadelphia there is the case of this anchorwoman who's about to get a huge payday because of what happened to her at the hands of her co-anchor. I know this woman and D-R-A-M-A follows her as you can tell by reading the link. So along with this civil suit worth potentially millions of dollars, she is also rumored to have landed a job here in NYC.
"I don't get it" I lamented to Buff as he chowed down on his salad. "What gives? I have been without a job for two years now. Maybe I need to be a bad girl to get some attention and make something happen". Because, you see when I left CBS, after they told me my services were no longer needed, two weeks before my mastectomy (and yes they knew I was having the surgery) I stood up, shook my boss' hands and held my head high as I walked out. No drama, no Star Jones, on air statements, just me, who felt it was important to remain professional to the bitter end.
But every once in a while I get that twinge of, "why me and this is so not fair!" Then I go back to what my mother used to always say. "The only thing fair in life is the weather." How true !
So this Thanksgiving I vow to be thankful for MY life and upon closer examination, it's pretty good!
*** I had major surgery two years ago and I came out of that better than good. I came out great! It helped give my life new purpose as I work with others to help spread the word about breast cancer through Susan G. Komen for the Cure
*** I have a WONDERFUL family. I know I complain at times (i need material!) but I love my husband and life we have built together. I am constantly amazed by the children God gave me to raise. In a word, AWESOME!
*** I have financial security, thanks to my great husband. See if it were up to me I would have blown through every dime I had. He's the saver and the one who tells me it's time to back away from the credit card. He is passing that important lesson along to my children, which really is less about spending and more about learning the difference between want versus need.
*** I have great, GREAT friends! I had "friends" when I was working in TV. Then all of a sudden when the big fancy job, complete with car service and wardrobe allowance disappeared, POOF so did they. But it stripped the wheat from the chaff as it were, along with any sort of pretense from my life. Lo and behold, it was cleaner and simpler and REAL.
So as I sit down to a meal, where I have more than enough to eat, more friends than I thought I would have, more blessings than I deserve, there will be none of this " Life is unfair" thinking. I am thankful for MY life, which is more than good enough!
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Permalink Reply by angie goff on -
Ohhhhh Rene....I needed this post more than the Cinnamon streusel pancakes I'm waitin on here at the IHOP. First off I know exactly who you're talkin about and YES I too often say WTH??I remember early on when frustrated finding my first job,seeing a friend of mine with 0 exp but pageant resume pass me by, Jon Kelley (I think he's still w XTRA) told me Angie, every second you put towards "them" that's one second you take away from yourself.I have carried those words with me for the last 7 years.It's ok to feel this way because it's terribly annoying and absolutely mutha effin' NOT FAIR.I still am mad at the weather too- raining on my wedding day...JERK!
Anyhow..pancakes are here and hubby is yelling "that's annoying!!" At me for "txting" at breakfast (I tried to explain THIS is not txting) So I'll do my best tochime in again later....but great post and glad you had a wonderful holiday!
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Permalink Reply by Rene Syler on -
LOL... you are killingme.. I am so glad you are a part of our little community. Wise beyond your years, Angie Goff.. GO EAT and sneak away later to play !
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Permalink Reply by jackijones on -
Renee, what a great outlook. That "life is not fair" attitude gets us no where. My motto is Choose Joy. --no matter what. I also like the saying that "life is ten percent what happens to you and ninety percent what you do with what happens to you". I too am counting my blessings this season. My health problems are a minor complication but I'm not going to let it keep me down. God bless you!
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Permalink Reply by Ann Marie Evanko on -
It never fails - I am sitting here, just having bickered with the hubby over the usual crap ("you don't pay attention to me, you don't listen to me, you don't hear me..." of course, none of which he hears) and as we retreat to our favorite places (mine the computer, his the "typical" couch with the remote) I read your Thanksgiving chat and I am instantly lifted. Thanks again for the fine words of wisdom. AM
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Permalink Reply by Rene Syler on
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Oh, Ann Marie, sorry about the argument, but thanks for letting me know I said something that mattered!
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Permalink Reply by Faun on -
I'm sure you've also heard the old cliche "life is not fair" as well, and yes, your mother was right...but even sometimes that fair weather will take a turn on ya (speaking from experience by living in LA/TX area). With you venting to your husband; however, you were able to bounce back with the many blessings you truly have. I'm sure you're aware that money doesn't buy happiness and as far as what you possess...those things just can't be "bought." It either IS or it's fake! You've lived the difference!!
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